Look for the Heroes

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Last week on Lexington Avenue I witnessed a new breed of hero.  I was walking with my ten-year-old daughter when we heard yelling behind us. We turned around to see a man in a suit cursing at three construction workers. He continued to yell profanities as he walked down the block towards us. One of…

Gratitude: The Best Meal To Serve Your Hungry Ghost

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Gratitude is wishing for what you already have. For most of us, this doesn’t happen naturally. Good news is that our brains can be re-wired. Daily practice carves out neural pathways that will routinely lead us to fresh ways of thinking and experiencing the world. Grateful people are happy ones; there is nothing complicated about…

In My Quest for Meaning I Discovered the Power of Lipstick

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In the name of growth, I have listened to hundreds of hours of podcasts and workshop leaders and I have read countless books, articles, and course material. A month ago, during a walk in the Maine woods, I stopped abruptly in the middle of a Tim Ferriss podcast. I couldn’t absorb another word from well-intentioned people spinning verbose webs to claim a corner of the rapidly expanding personal development business. When…

Transcendental Meditation Is Not as Boring as It Sounds

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Do you meditate regularly? If so or if not, are you sick of hearing about meditation? That makes two of us. Listening to anyone describe their meditation practice is on the same level of tedium as someone telling you about their dream. But meditation is an essential habit in my life that produces results. This post…

Expansion or Survival Mode: Where Are You Located?

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Do you experience stretches of time when your brain feels like an old English manor filled with dozens of doors leading to unexplored rooms? Other times, does your brain feel like a cramped studio apartment? And like a Twilight Zone episode, you can be transported from the manor house to the studio in minutes? You…

Thank You Negative: My Version of a Super Positive Post

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Do you find the word positive vague like I do? Does it make you feel like you are falling short of some golden state of being? “Stay positive”, “try to be more positive”, “practice positive thinking”. There is something unobtainable about the word positive when it is used alone. Are there people who wake up smiling…

How to be Terribly Imperfect and Get Started Anyway

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“Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us.” Steven Pressfield Is there something you want to do but you don’t feel ready yet? Maybe in a year? Maybe another class or degree will prepare you? If that’s your current thought process than Resistance has you in a…

Feedback: Who You Listen to Is Just as Important as Who You Ignore

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Over the past year, feedback has played a critical role in my growth. Seeking feedback has been a system of mine since I stopped drinking. So why did it take thirteen years for me to see any results? A glitch was sabotaging my feedback system. I was jogging 5 miles a day and eating an…

Are You Stuck? Find Your Blind Spots

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Are you self-aware? Can you speak about your strengths and weaknesses with ease? I know the danger of this position firsthand; self-knowledge seems useful initially but ends up creating a surplus of certainty. Certainty is the cement in which we get stuck. Our known weaknesses don’t take us down, it’s our blind spots. If you…

Judgment or Reality?

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How many times have you made a decision based on an abrupt judgment? Do you feel confident that the way you see things is reality? Do you explain some of your judgments as instinct? I’ve been off lately, barely able to sit through my two daily meditations because of the creepy crawly energy under my…