Feedback: Who You Listen to Is Just as Important as Who You Ignore

Feedback: Who You Listen to Is Just as Important as Who You Ignore 640 428 Thayer Fox

Over the past year, feedback has played a critical role in my growth. Seeking feedback has been a system of mine since I stopped drinking. So why did it take thirteen years for me to see any results? A glitch was sabotaging my feedback system. I was jogging 5 miles a day and eating an…

Are You Stuck? Find Your Blind Spots

Are You Stuck? Find Your Blind Spots 640 426 Thayer Fox

Are you self-aware? Can you speak about your strengths and weaknesses with ease? I know the danger of this position firsthand; self-knowledge seems useful initially but ends up creating a surplus of certainty. Certainty is the cement in which we get stuck. Our known weaknesses don’t take us down, it’s our blind spots. If you…

Judgment or Reality?

Judgment or Reality? 640 432 Thayer Fox

How many times have you made a decision based on an abrupt judgment? Do you feel confident that the way you see things is reality? Do you explain some of your judgments as instinct? I’ve been off lately, barely able to sit through my two daily meditations because of the creepy crawly energy under my…

Is Compromise Creating Expectations in Your Relationship?

Is Compromise Creating Expectations in Your Relationship? 640 366 Thayer Fox

How much do you compromise in your relationship? What expectations do you have for your partner? Do you communicate them clearly? Have you ever considered that compromise is creating expectations in your relationship? Smiling, my husband says that my idea of a great date night is couples therapy and a shrimp tempura roll. He is…

How to Become the Source of Your Own Inspiration

How to Become the Source of Your Own Inspiration 640 426 Thayer Fox

What are you doing in your life that inspires you? Are you hesitating at that question because it feels arrogant to claim yourself as a source of inspiration? Do you use some version of the I am not good enough tape as an excuse? That thinking paralyzed me for a long time. It’s easier than…

Are You Revealing or Hiding?

Are You Revealing or Hiding? 640 426 Thayer Fox

What if when we met someone new, instead of sharing external details about our lives, we revealed a few stories from our past that shaped us. What if we spoke about what made us feel excited and what we would like to accomplish? What if the creation of relationships was more intentional and transparent? What…

Love Like Your Life Depends on It

Love Like Your Life Depends on It 640 391 Thayer Fox

Four people I love have lost people they love over the past two weeks. Death is a difficult subject to talk or write about; words feel flimsy. I don’t associate death with inspiration, but after attending two funerals and spending time with the grieving, I am experiencing death to be the most majestic window we…

How to Make Everyday Extraordinary

How to Make Everyday Extraordinary

How to Make Everyday Extraordinary 640 425 Thayer Fox

Ordinary days are waiting to become extraordinary. What if you give an ordinary day the opportunity to be more? What if you believed that the difference between ordinary and extraordinary was only a shift in perspective? And you have the power to make that shift? If you are having a “fine” day, nothing scintillating on…

The Gift of Consciousness

The Gift of Consciousness 640 426 Thayer Fox

My favorite commencement speech is called “This is Water” by David Foster Wallace. It offers us the gift of consciousness. David’s message is enormous. It’s spectacular and shattering, and we rarely dare to speak it. When you listen, you realize how subtle the line is between a lifetime of misery and a lifetime of wonder.…

Practice Takes Practice

Practice Takes Practice 640 426 Thayer Fox

Do you ever hear or read something that echoes in your head for hours afterward? Like it’s meant to find a home in you and is canvasing your internal landscape for a plot to settle? What if you choose to believe that everything that shows up in front of you today is meant for your…